Rendezvous with the “Strict Father” of Bollywood

As we chatted, it became clear that the sternness of his character didn’t define Vipin Sharma the person. He spoke warmly, humbly reflecting on how he approached portraying the father—not as someone unfeeling, but someone constrained by societal expectations and generational norms. I was struck by the contrast: the stern father of the film and the gentle, thoughtful man sitting across from me. Our conversation naturally gravitated to parenting. I shared my belief that parenting is an art—a delicate balance between guiding and understanding each child’s unique nature. Children aren’t blank slates; their likes, habits, emotional expressions are all intrinsic and diverse. Rather than molding them through fear or anger, we need to nurture and gently shape their natural dispositions.

Vipin nodded in agreement. He admitted that his role in the movie forced him to confront a common Indian parenting archetype: authority, discipline, rigid expectations. But he emphasized that the character’s heart was never meant to be cold. That internal conflict—between love and expectation—is what made the role resonate with so many. I shared how I view fatherhood as a chance to relive childhood—with wisdom this time. To be not only a parent, but also a friend and a philosopher for my children. To offer guidance, to be a safe harbor, to grow alongside them. Building that deep, trusting bond requires empathy more than discipline. It means shaping with love, not breaking through authority.

Vipin smiled and shared that his own children keep him grounded—reminding him daily that no matter the role he plays on screen, real life calls for patience and humility. That airport conversation shattered my expectations. The Father in Taare Zameen Par was a powerful cinematic image—but the man himself was surprisingly modest. A real-life embodiment of empathy over authority.

Parenting, I believe, is an enduring journey. One where every moment with our kids can become an opportunity to grow—together. They remain unique and special, shaping our roles as fathers and friends anew. And meeting Vipin Sharma reminded me that integrity, humility, and love live outside the reel, in the quiet grace of real people.