The Inspiration of Two Brothers - Dnyandev and Tukaram

The story begins in the early 1950s, in the quiet Indian village of Uplai, a small village in the Solapur district of Maharashtra. Two brothers, Tukaram and Dnyandev, grew up under the same roof, the elder fondly called Tuka. In those days, male-dominated households often favoured sons—especially the eldest—over their sisters. Eldest sons were showered with privileges: the best food, the most attention, and in Tuka’s case, even a bicycle—the only one the family could afford.

Creative representation of the brothers

Years passed. By 2025, the brothers were in their mid-seventies. Dnyandev, now a retired banker, had raised two successful sons who built their lives in Mumbai and Pune. Tuka lived simply in the same village, his only steadfast companion a bottle of alcohol.

Last year, Dnyandev fulfilled a childhood dream: he built a bungalow in the village, naming it Vitthal Smriti—“In the Loving Memory of Vitthal,” their late father. Vitthal had been well-liked but flawed, his only claim to success being that he never sold the family’s ancestral land despite his own drinking habit.

The friend paused, understanding at last. The same roots had fed two very different trees. And sometimes, the same inspiration can lead to entirely different destinies.

Vitthal Smruti - Built in 2024

Why I am Grateful to this Pune Autorickshaw Driver?

Incident at Kharadi, Pune on August 7, 2025

But now, here I was, facing a bigger mess — this time caused by a seemingly drunk auto driver. It was clear that he was in no position to pay for the repairs. I realized I had a choice — to fight or to let it go. This was a test of my tolerance. I searched within for my mistake, but found none. And yet, I decided to forgive. Forgiveness is one of the toughest things to practice, especially when harm is done to something you deeply value. My colleague advised me to lodge a complaint, but the choice was mine.

I chose the difficult path — to repair the broken tail light but leave the dents as they were. As a remembrance. A reminder to not to hold too tightly to things, lest they slip away. A reminder to not to be like the friend of mine who bought an expensive Benz but drove it through Pune’s crowded streets filled with constant worry and stress.

Sometimes, life’s greatest lessons come from the worst incidents — and yet, instead of being thankful for the wisdom they bring, we often waste our energy fighting for the wrong reasons.

A Billionaire On The Hospital Bed - An Experience from Bangalore

This was in October 2007, a Halloween weekend and I was lying on a hospital bed. For me, it was the fourth day on a hospital bed at the Apollo Hospital on Bannerghatta Road in Bangalore. I was recuperating after suffering a fall that tore the ligament off my right knee. Movement was a Herculean task. My world was reduced to the ceiling above me and occasional glances at other patients and their visitors.

One such patient, very close to my bed, was Mr. Mehra.

Mr. Mehra was in his fifties or probably in his early sixties. A teenage daughter, a son, and his wife visited him every morning without fail. It had become a routine I silently observed for the past two days. The wife always sat beside his pillow, gently touching him. The son stood at a distance while the daughter wept quietly. They spent some twenty minutes with him each day. Mr. Mehra, however, always wore a smile — a content, peaceful one.

“Mukesh Ambani bought a 245 crore worth of private jet — his flying office, they say,” I read aloud the newspaper headline to Mr. Mehra.

“Well sir, that’s true,” I responded, as my admiration towards the billionaire quietly converted into pity.

I was stunned.

There was a brief silence between us. I recalled the faces of his family members I had seen earlier in the morning. And then I looked back at Mr. Mehra’s smiling face. Such a tough man, I thought.

“I am so sorry to know that, sir,” I said quietly.

Mr. Mehra gave me a careful look — as if trying to read my thoughts.

“You have a beautiful family,” I offered, trying to pacify the moment.

“Yes, my wife is a strong lady, and I am proud of her. I have spent the best days of my life with her. In this situation, she is the most affected person in my family. But look at how strong she behaves in front of her kids,” Mr. Mehra said, still calm and composed.

“Your son seems aloof and does not talk to you much,” I observed.

“No, he is the one who loves me the most. Have you noticed he stands away from my bed? It’s because he knows that he cannot look into my eyes without bursting out crying. He doesn’t want to be a wrong example for his sister and mother. You know, he keeps on calling me all throughout the day,” Mr. Mehra clarified.

The next two days, I spoke to Mr. Mehra on various topics. But the fact that he was a dying man — a billionaire, not with money but with the riches of relationships — kept haunting me.

I was unable to read the newspaper that day.

When God Put Me to a Test – Papa’s Heart Surgery!

Life has a way of testing our character at the most unexpected moments. Here’s something that happened to me on the morning of my father's CABG bypass surgery—Tuesday, August 9th, 2022 a day I’ll never forget.

With Papa in November 2024

Walking under the umbrella, looking down at the muddy path, I suddenly saw what looked like bundles of ₹500 notes lying on the ground - stranded in the rain water waiting to be found. I couldn’t believe my eyes. I looked around—no one was there. My first thought: these must belong to some poor person; maybe they dropped them in their haste to reach a hospital for a relative’s surgery. It could also belong to a poor wife who came there to save her husband - it could belong to any passerby and any strange face walking around. The amount was large. 

Many in my shoes might usually think, “I'll just keep it…” 

But that’s not right. As we all know. 

I spent an hour walking around at the hospital, every floor reading faces - worried, in search of something, enquiring or may be crying. But, nobody seemed to be looking for the money. I approached the OPD security desk and asked, “Has anyone reported missing cash here?” They replied that someone was looking for their money a couple of hours back. 

I didn’t tell them the exact amount for an obvious reason - it was the only secret key for me to identify the owner of the cash. I asked them to contact me and handed over my phone number. 

"When the rightful owner reaches out with details, please contact me.", I affirmed. 

Hours went by without a call. When that happened, dark thoughts began to harass my mind—what could I possibly do with such a sum? Every face I passed among the patients’ family members, I tried to figure out who the owner might be—but I found no one.

As time passed by a firm resolve grew within me. Even if the rightful owner never appears, the money came into my hands for the very reason I was there. For a moment, poor thoughts lingered into my mind. It turned out to be a battle on conscience. I was with my Papa - to be with him on his surgery day. So it must be used for that reason, in that spirit. Patients at the hospital do not have faces. Their nearest relatives carry the worry. 

But deep in my mind, I was firm - "This was not my money!"

Dr. Gulshan Rohra, the heart surgeon performed two heart surgeries everyday - one in the morning and another was post lunch. That day it was Papa and another lady's turn. The lady was operated in the morning. It was Papa's turn in the afternoon. After hours of uncertainty, his heart surgery was ultimately successful. He recovered but the lady who was operated in the morning couldn't. 

It could have been Papa - I never felt this helpless before. It was all about a prayer - a prayer performed with a pure heart. There is immense power in good thoughts. I was determined even before his surgery - I will use this money for a right cause. It was about overcoming the obsession towards the unknown cash - the one that did not belong to me. I was determined to give it up. But, it was about owning the selfless thought of not deciding to give it up in return of a vested purpose. It was about being pure at heart. Seeing Papa restored to health felt like receiving my father back.

A few days later, the sum found its way into the hands of another needy, distressed acquaintance —someone who had lost focus and lacked hope in repaying a debt that was acquired to pay their ICU bills. In that act of thoughtful giving, peace was restored. As for finding the real owner of the cash was concerned, I decided to leave it to the cycle of Karma.

Papa - just before his surgery in 2022

Why Do People Drink Alcohol? His Question Left Me Speechless

It was a quiet Sunday afternoon. Sarthak, my 9-year-old son, and I had just finished watching a movie together. As we relaxed, he turned to me with a question that caught me slightly off guard—not because it was unexpected, but because of where it led.

“Papa, why do people like to drink alcohol?” he asked with innocent curiosity.

An AI image representing thoughts in Sarthak’s mind

I could guess where the question had come from. The movie we’d watched had a few scenes showing alcohol, and this wasn’t the first time such imagery had popped up. It was natural that he’d want to understand.

Still, I was prepared for this one.

“People like the feeling they get after they drink it, Beta,” I replied. “Once they drink it the first time, they can become addicted to it. So it’s bad.”

He stayed quiet for a moment, thinking. Then came the follow-up:

“What is that feeling like?”

Now I was in a fix. This wasn’t something I could brush aside or answer half-heartedly. I had to be honest, but careful.

“They feel lighter,” I explained. “They get an illusion that their problems are fading away. The more they drink, the more they lose their sense of reality. They just get this feeling—but at the cost of their health.”

Sarthak listened intently, still curious. I could see he was processing what I had said, probably piecing it together with stories he’d heard from school—about classmates’ fathers who drink, about habits he didn’t fully understand.

After a moment of quiet, he said something that truly stunned me:

“Oh! Losing the sense of reality! Then why don’t they just… just die? It’s the same feeling, right!”

He looked at me, genuinely waiting for an answer.

And I had none.

It hit me hard. If a 9-year-old child can connect the dots and grasp the gravity of escapism through alcohol, isn’t it a pity that so many grown-ups still fall into its trap—damaging their health, hurting their families, and losing themselves in the process?

Sometimes, the most innocent questions reveal the deepest truths. And they leave us, as parents and as people, speechless.

Learnings from the Covid-19 Lockdown

When the COVID-19 lockdown began, we were at our home in Pune. Like everyone else, we were suddenly stuck indoors, unsure of how long it would last. At first, it felt strange and uncertain, but soon we saw it as a chance to try new things and make the most of the time we had.

Since there was no house help, we had to manage everything on our own. Tried new things for the first time - shaving my head at home for the first time in my life, learning how to mop the floor, wash dishes, and take care of everyday chores. It made me appreciate all the work that goes into keeping a home running smoothly.

A self-haircut

 I used the time to learn something new and finally completed my master’s degree in Data Science, which had been on my mind for a while. In 2021, I made the big decision to switch jobs. It wasn’t easy to do that during such uncertain times, but it turned out to be a good move. At work, our team actually became more productive while working from home. It was surprising to see how well we could adapt and still stay focused. We also used this time to upgrade to our new house. Making small changes here and there made it feel more comfortable and welcoming. One of the biggest blessings was getting to spend more time with our kids. We played games, cooked together, shared more meals, and simply enjoyed each other’s company in a way we hadn’t in years. We tried out new recipes and found small joys in cooking and eating together.

But it wasn’t all easy or fun. We lost a few relatives and colleagues to the virus, which was heartbreaking. There was always a fear of falling sick, and the news only added to the stress. The stock market kept going down, getting a vaccine slot on the CoWin website was frustrating, and at one point, both Priya and I got COVID. The days in quarantine felt long and isolating—almost like being in jail. It was emotionally draining, and the fear of what could happen was always there.

Still, all of this taught us some important lessons. We learned to be stronger, to stay calm in difficult moments, and to keep smiling even when things felt heavy. We understood that even the darkest times do come to an end—and after every tunnel, there is always some light.

Looking back, the lockdown changed us in many ways. It was full of challenges, but also full of growth. We tried new things, discovered new parts of ourselves, and most importantly, we came out of it stronger and closer as a family.

The Quiet Magic of Time

Mumbai is a city of millions. A place where lives crisscross every day — in locals, on footpaths, at railway platforms — often without us realizing how close we come to the people who will one day matter the most.

 Priya and I grew up just like any other kids in a typical Maharashtrian middle-class household. We both lived in Mumbai — in fact, not just the same city, but often in the same parts of it. Our lives mirrored each other in ways that still leave us amazed. We did our engineering in the same year from colleges just a few kilometres apart. We attended the same centralized admission center at VJTI, standing in similar queues, probably minutes apart. We both took crash courses at Vidyalankar in Dadar — sat through the same lectures, possibly in the same classrooms.

Our fathers worked in Cuffe Parade, their offices in buildings adjacent to each other. Everyday, they probably had their tea breaks around the same time, perhaps even nodded at each other without knowing their children would one day share a life.

And yet, somehow, we never met.

In a city known for its chaos and coincidences, we remained invisible to each other for decades — living parallel lives, unknowingly sharing spaces, routines, and even dreams. It wasn't until we decided to marry — through an arranged setup — that we finally came face-to-face. No meet-cute, no dramatic crossing of paths. Just a quiet, grown-up realization that sometimes, destiny doesn’t rush. It waits. It weaves.

Now, years later, we laugh about it. How many times did we brush past each other? Did we ever share a train compartment? Stand in the same canteen line? We’ll never know.

But today, we grow older together — two people who unknowingly grew up together all along.

And that, I think, is the quiet magic of time and destiny.

The Story of Kirk - And the Life Lessons he Taught Me

I visited the West Coast for the very first time in 2014. I was staying at a hotel near Cocarane Plaza in Morgan Hill — a serene little village, a bit away from San Francisco. My office was at a walkable distance from the hotel, so I avoided taking an Uber most of the time.

With Kirk - Our Goodbye Moment in 2014

 It was during one of my morning walks that I first noticed a man outside Walmart. His name was Kirk. I remember the day we shared a smile for the first time. He spent most of his day in the plaza outside Walmart, usually seated on the same bench. After a few days of passing by and exchanging glances, I finally initiated some casual conversation with him.

“Where do you stay?” I asked.

“This place is my home,” Kirk replied, pointing to the bench outside Walmart.

That’s when I understood — he had no home technically. At night, he slept somewhere near the freeway 101. That was his routine.

One sunny Saturday afternoon, with no particular plans, I decided to explore the shops around. I saw Kirk sleeping on his usual bench. I tried not to disturb him.

“Why don’t you buy a bicycle, Neeraj?” he asked as I passed by. I realized he wasn’t really asleep. I was impressed by his attentiveness. I smiled.

“Well Kirk, I’m here for just a month. I don’t want to buy any asset here,” the thoughtful finance guy within me responded instantly.

“You can donate it when you leave,” he said. “Donating is good for you. Don’t they practice giving there in India?” Kirk added.

I nodded and gave it some thought. Maybe he is expecting me to donate it to him, I thought. That day, I felt a bit disconnected from Kirk and avoided further conversation.

The next day, he met me again. He had just finished his breakfast. It was a Sunday and I had a whole day of free time. Kirk offered to take me hiking around.

“The fact is, I will be leaving for India on Thursday,” I said.

“Well, that’s it?” he responded, in a choked voice.

I offered him lunch that day, and he happily accepted.

“Why are you homeless, Kirk?” I asked, after gauging that I wasn’t intruding too much into his personal life.

“I was at a crossroads in my life,” he began. “There came a moment when I had to choose — settle a wrong marriage, continue the battle in court, or donate my wealth to her.”

Kirk paused, the chopsticks in his hands motionless.

“And you know, I chose the latter. I bought my freedom,” he said.

His eyes showed no faith in the judiciary. It had clearly been a tough decision — to keep fighting and ruin the rest of his life, or to walk away and live like a free bird, managing with the little finances he had left.

I remembered his advice about buying a bicycle, and my assumption that he wanted it for himself. I was wrong. Completely. I had doubted a man who had the courage to donate his life’s savings to a selfish woman, and chose to live on the streets instead of living tied to bitterness.

The last time I saw him

The Story of Ben - And How He Touched My Heart!

I first met Benedicto—or Ben in 2013. I had just started making business trips to Qatar, and my company, Mannai, had leased a few well-set-up apartments in a building at Al Mansoura. It was my first visit to this Arab country, and everything felt new: the weather, the city, the culture and the people.

Room allocation for our business trips was managed by the travel team back at our Pune office. Usually, it was two people to an apartment, and many of my colleagues already had obvious and familiar roommates. But since I was new to the Doha travel circuit, I was still to be paired.

One day, while my travel documents and visa were being processed, a travel team member reached out to me with a strange question.

“Are you sure you want to share the apartment with Ben?” he asked.

The Party Evening with Ben - June 19, 2013

That question raised my eyebrows. “Why do you ask that?” I responded, clearly curious.

“I’ve heard he’s not an easy-going person. Several of our Indian colleagues have complained about him in the past. He’s usually allocated an apartment by himself,” the agent explained.

Interesting, I thought. I soon found out that Ben was from the Philippines, and that his lifestyle, especially his food habits, were quite different from what we were used to. I was curious rather than cautious, so I gave the go-ahead.

When I landed in Doha, Ben wasn't home yet. His room was locked—which, I later learned, was always the case when he was away. I took my time exploring the apartment, familiarizing myself with what would be my temporary home. Later that evening, I finally met Ben.

He greeted me warmly, and I did the same. He politely asked if I had any issues with his things in the fridge.

“What’s in it?” I asked, unsure of what to expect.

Ben walked me over to the kitchen and opened the fridge. Inside was a big stingray fish—its smell instantly filling the air. There were other non-vegetarian items as well.

“I don’t mind, Ben,” I said, catching his reaction. “I usually eat out anyway—never really have time to cook.”

That was my first impression of Filipino cuisine—interesting, but a bit odd to my Indian palate. Ben seemed relieved to know I wasn’t put off. I think that’s when he realized I was easy-going, and that was the beginning of our unexpected friendship.

In the trips that followed, I was often allocated to stay with Ben. Over time, we started getting to know each other better. One day, Ben invited me into his room. It was… a world of its own. Messy, yes—but filled with personality. Posters covered the walls, including celebrity pictures, and a few quotes he said he believed in deeply. There were also all kinds of unique items he had collected over the years.

He spoke about his family—his wife who lived in the United States, and his daughter who stayed in Europe. A family spread out across the globe. I sensed a story there but didn’t want to pry too much into his personal life.

The following Friday, Ben seemed unusually quiet. I asked him if everything was okay.

“I want to take you out, Neeraj, for a small party in the evening. Are you okay with that? We can go to an Indian restaurant—or anywhere you like,” he offered.

“Of course,” I said. “Who says no to a party? But… what’s the occasion?”

“It’s my brother’s death anniversary today,” Ben replied, his voice slightly breaking. “I loved him very much. And you, Neeraj… you remind me of him.”

“Aww,” I said, touched, as I gave him a hug with my left arm.

“Let’s go to a Philippine restaurant then,” I declared.

“Are you sure?” he asked, and just like that, we both burst out laughing.

That evening, we honored his brother’s memory in the way Ben knew best—with food, stories, and quiet companionship. And in that moment, thousands of miles from home, we both found something rare—a friendship built not on similarity, but on respect and open hearts.

A Man with Clarity of Thoughts: A Tribute to Late Sunil Kaka

There are people who live quietly, without ever demanding the center stage, yet leave behind a silence that feels larger than life when they are gone. My cousin uncle, Sunil Kaka, was one such soul.

Sunil Kaka on March 6th, 2010

I didn’t meet him very often—usually just during my visits to our farms—but each interaction left a lasting impression. I always saw him on his wheelchair. A tragic road accident many years ago had left him paralyzed from the waist down. It was a life-altering moment for him, but not a life-defining one. While many of us may view such a condition as limiting, even devastating, Sunil Kaka seemed to transcend it. He lived with acceptance, quiet dignity, and, I dare say, extraordinary grace.

There was something about him—something beyond the physical. During our brief conversations, I always had the sense that he possessed a kind of inner power, a sixth sense. He had a razor-sharp mind and often surprised me with his insights into the world—be it village politics, international affairs, or even weather forecasts. Sitting in his chair for hours, he would reflect deeply on the happenings around him. Some might call it idleness; I saw it as contemplation.

What particularly stood out was his passion for chess. He was an exceptional player. Perhaps the stillness of his body had allowed his mind to sharpen beyond ordinary limits. I often wondered if his disability had somehow unshackled other faculties within him—making him not less than us, but perhaps more in certain ways.

Sunil Kaka was also an active participant in our family WhatsApp group. He was known for his long messages—updates, thoughts, reflections. In the rush of life, I had stopped reading those messages attentively. I regret that now.

Toward the end, he began to suffer from severe kidney problems—likely caused by years of drinking borewell water. The pain became unbearable in his final days. It was one of those phases when a person runs out of options and battles the night alone. Yet even then, Kaka’s unusual sensitivity didn’t leave him.

At 4:11 AM, in the early morning darkness when most of the world was asleep, he sent a message to our WhatsApp group. Just three words:

“Goodbye Shinde Pariwar.”

By 6:30 AM, he was gone.

I stared at that message and its timestamp for a long time, reading it again and again. Did he know? Could he feel the knock of death approaching? That uncanny sense of awareness had always surrounded him, but this time, it was deeply personal.

Since that day, I’ve often returned to my memories with him—the quiet conversations, the unexpected wisdom, the way he made his wheelchair a throne of thought rather than a prison of limitation. Sunil Kaka didn’t just survive after the accident. He lived, reflected, played, shared, and finally, he said goodbye with a clarity most of us may never have when our time comes.

He left us in the same way he lived—with awareness, calmness, and a gentle whisper, not a cry.

Goodbye, Kaka. You’ll be missed—not for the life you couldn’t live, but for the depth with which you lived the one you had.

Watching Her Grow: My Journey Through Time

Fourteen years. That’s how long it’s been since I first held Shamika in my arms—a tiny, fragile bundle of innocence. In those early days, everything felt new. The first giggle, the first stumble, the first time she said “ta ta ta….geeee” I was clueless, nervous, and utterly overwhelmed. But above all, I was in awe.

 Watching your first child grow is a bit like being gifted a second childhood. You get to be silly again, laugh for no reason, dance around the living room, and make funny faces just to get a smile. You find yourself doing ridiculous things in front of a camera because that’s what freedom looks like through your child’s eyes—unfiltered joy. There were messy days too—quite literally. I still remember cleaning Shamika’s nose when she had a cold, gently reminding her (more like nagging, really) about hygiene and grooming. I was her coach, her nurse, her storyteller, and her cheerleader. And somewhere in that chaos, I found my own life becoming fuller and more meaningful.

Fast forward to now—she’s a teenager. Independent, opinionated, and fiercely conscious about her image. She rolls her eyes at baby photos and groans when I show her that one picture—yes, the one she hates me for keeping. But I can’t help it. That photo is a time capsule. It’s proof that no matter how grown-up she becomes, there was once a time when she clung to my finger just to take her first step.

And here’s the twist I never saw coming—Shamika now teaches me. She points out when my shirt is outdated, nags me to trim my beard properly, and insists I comb my hair "like a normal person." Somewhere along the way, our roles began to shift. She's becoming her own person, and I’m learning to let go, slowly, carefully.

But no matter how grown she gets, she’ll always be my little girl.

They teach you patience, vulnerability, and above all, unconditional love. Watching Shamika grow has been the most humbling and joyful experience of my life. And while the days seem to race by, the memories we’ve created are stitched deeply into my heart. Here’s to every father out there getting a second shot at childhood through the eyes of their child—and to daughters like Shamika, who make that journey unforgettable. Daughters are special.

The Infosys Tag That Came With a Cost

2004. The year I passed out from a reputed engineering college in Navi Mumbai with dreams stitched tightly in my chest and hope clinging to every heartbeat. But dreams, as they often do, met the hard face of reality — a reality that wasn’t too kind to fresh engineering graduates seeking a break in the IT industry.

 It was a sluggish season for campus placements. While IT giants like TCS, Infosys, and Wipro did visit our college, they picked only one or two students. I wasn’t one of them. What followed was nearly a year of grinding — an off-campus placement hunt that tested every ounce of self-worth I carried. Rejection became a familiar tune, and hope started wearing thin.

Eventually, in August 2004, I landed my first job at a modest firm named Atkom Infotech, based in Andheri, Mumbai. It wasn’t the big leap I had envisioned, but it was a beginning. The daily commute was nothing short of an odyssey — two buses and two local trains, taking two hours one way. That daily grind, coupled with long hours at work, drained not just my energy but my spirit.

But amidst the struggle, there were silver linings — Pradnya Panhale, Dayanand Shinde, and Mahesh, my first work friends, whose camaraderie made the chaos feel bearable. We shared lunches, jokes, and even the quiet despair of missed opportunities.

I still remember the feeling of holding my first paycheque — ₹7,825/-. That crisp amount was promptly used by my family for Diwali shopping that year — a simple joy, but significant in its own way. Mr. Ashutosh Karnik, the Director of Atkom, appreciated my dedication and wanted me to continue. But deep down, I sensed the clever calculations behind his praise — and more importantly, I knew I needed to move on. What stung the most wasn’t the money or the exhaustion — it was the look in Papa’s eyes. The quiet discontent he masked in conversations with his friends. My younger brother, just a year behind me, had received offers from both TCS and Infosys. In comparison, I was the underdog in his stories — a well-meaning disappointment.

This silent judgment pushed me harder. I knew I couldn’t cling to comfort.

After a brief jobless phase, I took up a new role at DNC Data Systems in CBD Belapur, Navi Mumbai. It wasn’t glamorous, but it gave me something Atkom couldn’t — space to grow technically. My programming skills found direction, and I found friends and co-strugglers like Subha Fernando, who, like me, was quietly chasing something more.

Together, we prepared for the Infosys entrance test. She made it first and left for training in Mysore. Soon after, I cracked the test too. I was selected for Infosys, Hyderabad.

July 25, 2005 — the day I became an Infoscion. It wasn’t just a job offer. It was redemption, validation, and a long-awaited balm to all the humiliation I had swallowed over the past year.

It came at a cost.

It was the first time I left home, my parents, and my brother. I’ve never truly returned since — not in the same way. That moment marked the start of a new life and the quiet end of an old one. Looking back, that year of hardship gave me more than a job. It taught me resilience, the value of friendships formed in trenches, and the silent power of persistence.

If you’ve ever felt like an invisible name in a crowd of achievers, know this: sometimes the struggle itself carves out your story — one worth telling. And sometimes, it takes a whole year of being an underdog to finally hear pride in your father’s voice.

Picture shot by me in 2005 at Mangalore, Infy

It’s Neeraj (नीरज) - Not Niraj… Period!!

I was named Neeraj — a name chosen with love and purpose by my father. It’s not just a name; it’s a story, a legacy, and a reflection of who I strive to be. The name traces its roots to the pen name of the renowned Hindi poet, Gopaldas Saxena "Neeraj", whose words and spirit continue to inspire generations.

A Picture captured on my way to Joshimath

In Devanagari, it's spelled as नीरज, with a deliberate and graceful elongation in the syllable “नी” — pronounced "Nee". This elongation is not just linguistic; it symbolizes something far deeper for me: longevity, persistence, and continuity. These are qualities I strive to embody in life, work, and relationships.

The literal meaning of Neeraj is lotus — a flower that blooms in muddy waters. It represents beauty, clarity, and resilience rising from challenging circumstances. Knowing this, you can imagine why it hurts a little every time someone reduces it to “Niraj” or “निरज” — altering both its meaning and sound.

Spelling, and especially pronouncing, proper nouns correctly is not a trivial detail. It’s a sign of respect. Names are not just labels; they are identities, cultural markers, and often carry profound meanings or personal stories. When someone corrects you on the pronunciation or spelling of their name, they’re not being difficult — they’re simply asking to be seen and acknowledged as they truly are.

For me, this has meant regularly correcting people — in schools, workplaces, documents, and conversations. And while it can feel tedious, I see it as an important practice. I believe setting the right expectation from the beginning — by correcting mispronunciations or misspellings early — is a good habit. It’s a simple but powerful way of establishing mutual respect. In professional settings, getting someone’s name right is often the first act of trust-building. Whether it's the start of a conversation, a meeting, or a business relationship — names matter. Taking the effort to spell and pronounce them correctly sends a clear message: I see you, and I respect who you are.

So no, it’s not “Niraj.” It’s Neeraj — नीरज — a name given with intention, and one I carry with pride.